I found this morning from a mutual friend that our friend in France had blocked me on fb. There's a first time for everything as they say. I've no idea why, as I was very careful NOT to do things that I knew he didn't want.
He has blocked some others too..so not just me.
Still, he gave me a break in the sun when I most needed it, couldn't have treated me better. Introduced me to an area I now live...and will return to in May. Introduced me to places and people...some of whom are now friends who I'll be seeing..
Got me brave enough to organise and book this trip for myself....
So he has done me many favours.
But I don't give up on people just like that...which he knows. So hey ho...Things might work themselves out one day, meanwhile it is just carry on and be positive...or Possee-tive....as Possee was Pirate's surname ..and attitude.
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You're wise not to jump to the conclusion that this is somehow your fault -- your French friend may be going through something personal that makes him want to withdraw from too many social obligations. It may have absolutely nothing to do with you or the others.
Some people block because they’re trying to protect their mental health. It’s not personal. It’s more what those people represent. Like a catty lady at the knitting group. If it gets bad enough the whole group gets banned because they just don’t want to know anything about what is going on
yes, knowing him that could be hitting the point, sadly...
Not sure I understand the FB thing. Mr B has tried to explain but it's over my head. Our community noticeboard is a FB group and Ive grappled with how to join to get access without all the other stuff that seems to go with FB. Made everything as private and closed down as i could and within 24 hours had been 'found' by loads of peple - some only distantly connected. Scary stuff. Maybe your friend just wanted a break from FB.
Hari OM
This can feel lick a physical whack, can't it? As said above, reasons may have nothing to do with you: if you have other contact details, always worth an enquiring message as you have right to be given a chance of amends should there need to be any.
That said, consider also that he may not have done anything - FB algorithms may have resulted in this blockage. I don't use the thing myself, but do have two pals who have experienced some strange blocking episodes and it has transpired not to have emanated from the accounts on which the block appeared... YAM xx
Is it possible that the blocking was accidental? Maybe he thought he was liking your post or something?
Being blocked is a big insult. It's his problem.
I agree. Your friend has experienced something; he is withdrawing and likely to return later. Give him time and space. No questions.
He is still on other mutual friends' "friend" lists...
No, he is still on other mutual friends pages as a friend...
no. I. don't think so
agreed
I've sent an email last Xmas which didn't bounce back..so the account is still live..but. no response
No. One of his sons has a tattoo and photography studio in Limoges. I can leave his birthday card and a message there. Then they will know that it is up to him.
There is bound to be a reason, don't give up on a good friend - could be that he was having a tidy out and deleted you by accident. Hope it works out, as you have his address, you could put a note in a card asking 'was it something I said ...' and that you hope you haven't lost his friendship and perhaps he will explain. Betty
Its hard, isn't it. Hugs to you and just remember - you are awesome and some people don't always have the best awesome receptors.
I'm afraid that it looks intentional. He knows that the door is open for friendship, so up to him
You have the right attitude toward this. Who knows what his reasons are? He didnt bother to tell you, so you can't make amends, if indeed there are any to be made. Best to just go on with your life, as you have.
There's probably more to it like others have said. Give them breathing room and I'm sure everything will become clear.
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