We met a friend for lunch yesterday..nearly a year since we saw him last in person...but he is busy running his own business and travels a lot.
Then down to the sea for ice cream and Pirate to sit and write and set out his thoughts.
He wants someone to write on his behalf..but unless you go down the legal route, that won't be possible, and that wouldn't be sensible...it would be being as bad as them.
He is really stressing, which isn't helping what he already has.
However putting his thoughts and feelings on paper has been a good step.
Far better than just stewing them over and over in his head.
We looked over all communication over the past few months...and got it into his head that he has done nothing wrong. He has had the backing of the Macmillan nurses and District Nurse and our doctor in all he has done.
So if a couple of people are being unpleasant because he hasn't done what they thought he should be doing....tough. I am even getting bad mouthed as I am his secretary...but I never write in his emails anything other than his words.
He has the love and respect of hundreds of others.
After all that he had a down day today, mainly resting and sleeping... ironically what these people think he ought to be doing every day...and by doing that he ends up feeling worse. Too much bed rest ends up with him being fatigued, shorter naps and activity works.
I just hope that next week's op will work and relieve him of at least some of the pain.
What did I do today? Not a lot....
Our boiler and radiators and loft were surveyed this morning...one more step towards a government grant.....fingers crossed...
A bit more tidying and sorting....and some mending.....
A stitch in time as is said. Worth doing, as very slowly my waistline is reducing...it is no longer a stretch to do up my waistband buttons on my trousers AND I can tuck in a t- shirt....
I am not going to weigh myself again until I can feel that I am getting my waistline back properly!!
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Pirate's love and respect from those that matter is what counts.
Well done on the waistline shrinkage. I wish I could say the same.
I’ve just read two blog posts because, due to bad weather, I’ve been off air
People can be so rude and have no idea how much words can hurt. I hope your hubby
Understands. It’s their problem or his.
As for weight. It’s not the number on the scale. It’s how you feel in your skin
I think we should all aim for happy and healthy rather then a number
I have a friend with returned breast cancer. I didn't even know she'd had it before...probably just because I was absent from church for about three years of COVID. Anyway, she saw a specialist last week, and decided not to have surgery. I don't know what options she was deciding on, but I just said I trust her judgement, that she is a rational level headed woman, and I support whatever she decided. How on earth can other people ever know what's best for someone else? As primary care giver for your sweet spouse, do make arrangements for others to help as you may need a break, following surgery at least. Or do you all get some home health assistance?
Angela agreed..but I don't feel good with a spare tyre in the wrong place!!
Barb I have plans for when he is in hospital....and things may be starting to move re kiln....and I have a weekend away soon..and our Fife friend will come over while I'm away
You said you didn’t do a lot today, but caring from for somebody is a whole lot! Even if on nothing very material gets done.
It’s a shame that sometimes half the struggle of dealing with health and life and one’s own personal decisions is dealing with what *other* people put on you for making those decisions… For heaven sake!
Rest PLUS activity sounds brilliant.
Naysayers can be so disruptive. They are so unfair. Can you let the naysayers know they are causing un-needed stress? Good job...You will feel fit and trim with some loss of weight.
Having Pirate write things is an excellent therapeutic activity. It's tough for both of you.
Well-meaning but ill-advised advice is never welcome. It is difficult to keep smiling sweetly while continuing to do what you know works best.
Susan they will know exactly the effects their words are having.
Good luck with the op.
Hugs for you and Pirate. How horrid people can be. I am glad you have people around who respect you both. More hugs.
I am sorry. Of all the things you have to worry about, the opinions of others should not even be in the top 10. I know the feeling. We had to make the decision to hold off giving information and updates until the decisions were all made between the two of us. I texted, but it was just the facts. It is such a stressful time. You don't need any more stress. He certainly doesn't either.
I think 'errogant' is going to be adopted by quite a few in the blogger domain.
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